In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[Amy M]

((((W.O.M.))))

You do sound better!!!! Hang in there. You are doing great!!!

I totally agree with Puppy on the legal consultation. I did that twice and learned from it both times. The attorney will likely charge you a fee, but they will tell you the process; how to protect yourself and your kids; and what you are entitled to in the way of assets, child support, etc. When I went the first time (2 years ago), I was no where near ready to file for D. But, the information she gave me left me feeling quite empowered. I was able to really see where I'd be without him in my life, and it was not nearly as bad as I had feared it would be. So, do that as soon as you can.

Do your best to ignore the negative attitude. Things for her aren't going like she had hoped they would...she hoped you would pick up and move out! She's bound to be slightly irritated! Just do you best to ignore negative comments. And, remember to act as if your life it moving along just fine...PMA!!!

There's no quick way out of this, so, take care of you so you maintain the energy to take care of the boys!

BTW, my boys are 7 and 3 and have adjusted (with only a few issues) to the separation fairly well thus far. They definitely take their cues from me, so, keep your chin up when they are around. That was hard for me at first, and I started to notice that my oldest was really working hard to protect me from anything that might make me sad...like he fussed at his little brother for misbehaving saying things like, "Don't upset mom." That was a wake up call for me...he's much to young to take care of me! So, I picked up and made huge strides in being positive around them about everything including the separation. And, that made a huge difference. He's back to being a 7-year old boy...and, some days, like yesterday, that's trying for a mom!!!

I'm rooting for you!

Love to you and your boys.
Amy