She said I need to go back and get a job and do my studying at night and be there for my kids.
She said screw what my W thinks at this point. I have a friend that agreed to let me stay with him while I look for a job and study at nights til June when I will be allowed back in my house.
Cheryl said like all of yall to move on without W and do whats best for me and the kids. It doesn't matter what W thinks at this point. What matters is what the kids need.
She also suggested a website... http://www.divorce-education.com on how best for both parents to handle kids through this process.
She said hopefully by moving on that W will eventually wonder and may come around. But right now, thats not where she is and probably won't be for some time.
She said I have to stop thinking about W and think about me and the kids. The kids need me regardless of what W thinks says or does. She said I have to stop trying to please W.
Yall have all said this stuff. But it sounds like I do need to be in the same city as my kids even if not in the same house so I can still be there for them.
She said don't get W's opinion on coming back. Don't even consult her on it. It doesn't matter what she wants.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
