Yes, the OW is about 50, I am not quite 5 years older than DH.
He and his mother do not have a close relationship--she is not a warm, nurturing person at all. He developed panic attacks at the age of 11, while his own father was deployed, shortly after his brother was born. I don't think his parents ever took the panic attacks seriously until he got older and ended up on Paxil about 10 years ago.
I think the OW will be gone, if only because of the length of time it will potentially take for DH to extricate him from our marriage. We are looking at a minimum of 2-2 1/2 years.
I think he does need counseling to deal with his personal issues, as well as the fact that he has been on Paxil for so long without any type of psychiatric monitoring. The Navy just keeps renewing his prescription without making him see anyone.
Yes, I do miss him terribly and do want him to come home. As for the intimacy, it has already been 14 months and counting on that. I DEFINITELY miss that part! He has been involved with the OW for over a year. I just wish I knew the end was in sight, sooner, rather than later.
I was kind of feeling that way about when he comes home, too, but it was nice to see it from someone who has BTDT, even if it is from the other side of the fence. With the OW being so far away, I am sure he might take the opportunity to cake eat if given the chance. Keep checking on me, as the next few weeks may get hairy.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
