These are my views on boundries. They are for you, and they are for the things that directly affect you. Anything less ? Well thats just being an A$$. The early boundries that I set were small, but directly affected our communication.
But those were necessary to continue down the road with this. They opened up communication for us enough to learn to be civil with each other.
I.E. It's not okay to treat me like a piece of crap even though you ARE tired.
They seemed small at the time, but they ended up being effective. They need to be laid out in a loving manner the FIRST time, and if they have to be repeated, well then......bombs away my friend.
The first is the hardest, after that , you realize that it isn't about her.....it's about you. Just don't start laying them down just cause you can. You will know when to speak.
For me ? They didn't start having the desired affect until her anger wore down. Not a time frame, I just noticed that slowly, she started NOT being as angry around me.
