In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[AnotherNightmare]

WOM,

You did great on this one. I agree 100% with Puppy, you are doing just fine.

Now that she can see that i have had an awakening and sees the changes i have made she is 98% sure.

That still sounds like she is over it to me.

That means there is some doubt in her mind. Do not get discouraged, this is actually a good development. You have a good shot at this, if my own experience counts for anything. I heard almost exactly the same words a few weeks after the bomb. If she was 100% sure, she would leave now and never look back.

I told her that if she were to ask anyone if when a father says that same statement they would respect it, I also said that you as their mother should be happy that is my priority.

This is the only thing you should skip next time. Do not tell her how she should feel. But do not beat yourself up for this one, just wanted to point this out to you.

She asked me so what does that mean for her and I, ...

Beautiful, now she is taking temperature.

I then told her my "awakening" has caused me to re-evaluate our relaionship and the changes she is going through, and given her changes she is more than welcome to come and tell me that she would like to try and re-establish a realionship with me, but i can't or won't guarantee I will still want to.

This is great. I hope for you that you sounded very confident when you said this. And never ever repeat it. She got the message.

Simply continue to treat her like you would treat a friend. I am almost certain that based on her reaction there are lots of doubts in her mind. So keep up the good work.

AN