Guys, you give great advice. I will admit, getting older has always been a big issue for me. I used to joke with H about him tossing me out for a younger model. I've let my insecurities about aging really influence how I look at this situation, like I'm defective somehow (PATHETIC I know--still thinking like a young girl rather than a mature woman). I know H has had trouble dealing with my health problems (really got slammed with them these past couple of years). Funny, he's had some health problems too. Me personally, I have no desire to be with someone so much younger because I feel like they couldn't understand the struggles that sometimes come with approaching middle age. But for H, and some others, in general, I think it is such an ego boost, that being looked up to and needed. That is what they crave and want out of a relationship. It is twisted and not healthy and not something I can give him. I do think though that for men, aging is more accepted by younger women and if the man gives the right attention and security, the younger girl will stay. And I know my H is laying the charm on thick with her. Young men can be immature and not ready to settle down at quite the same time. This girl, I know is having trouble finding the right man, so there you go.
But I do need to let it go and look at it as his loss, there is someone out there who will love me the way I am and for what I give. Just wish I could figure out how.
