She asked me so what does that mean for her and I, I said that I don't know and like her I can't predict the future. I then told her my "awakening" has caused me to re-evaluate our relaionship and the changes she is going through, and given her changes she is more than welcome to come and tell me that she would like to try and re-establish a realionship with me, but i can't or won't guarantee I will still want to.
W.O.M.,
Despite getting dragged into some cheeseless tunnels with her, you ended this PERFECTLY.
I can very succinctly sum up everything that came before that:
Your wife is trying like crazy to make any divorce YOUR fault, and YOUR decision.
Your response needs to be "I still do not want a divorce, but I understand you must do what you feel is best." -- and no more. Get a good family law attorney (preferably one who specializes in "men's rights" and paternal custody issues), and get an initial consultation to begin to better understand what your rights, responsibilities and potential vulnerabilities are. You do not need to INITIATE ANY ACTION, nor do you need to advise your wife of what you are doing (there's a reason they put that little "v" in between the names of the parties ).
You laid out a boundary (I will not move out nor be kicked out), and she's screaming like a stuck pig that you stuck up for yourself.
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