"So she had asked me to contact a real estate agent adn I told her that she can if she wants to. So tonite, she told me she did.
I reacted cooly with an "Oh. ok" Then she said what she thought we could get for the house based on the other houses selling nearby. I looked at her calmly and said "That's what I had thought".
Mentally I'm ok with selling the house as if we do get a divorce, it would be sold as part of the division anyway (she would get all the equity in the house as part of her 50%). If she gave the marriage another chance, we would want to sell it to get a fresh start (she said all the emotional abandoment started right after we moved into the house).
The she asked if I gave any more thought to custody. I said I haven't come up with anything new and asked what she thought. She told me which one of the two ideas she had presented already that she prefered. I just said "hmmmm, that's something to think about"
Then I made a comment about the show we were watching and the divorce/relationship conversation ended there.
So it looks like this divorce train is heading full speed ahead."
I think she is saber rattling myself. When people see someone change like you have it makes them feel uncomfortable ...she wants you to change back to your hurt depressed self. She see’s that you are stronger and that you do not seem to hurt anymore and you are independent ... she wants you to be hurt because it makes her feel truly cared about… sick I know ….I have been here and done that. So she contacted a realtor ok so what.....so when does she want to list it?
