Mindblank #2 - "Stuck as friends..."

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OUCH! Sheesh! This exercise stuff hurts! But, not terribly!

The last two nights S11 has had the semi-final and championship games for his junior high basketball team. They lost last night, at the .7 second mark 31-32, and he had a rim ringer at .4 that went round and round and round, and DIDN'T GO IN! God! They played superbly though! H was able to get home to see both games, then leave again for work. S11 was thrilled!

I've been working on that detaching thing. I think it's been easier because I have a goal in mind. I'm going to lose this dumb extra 15 lbs, focus on that, and the kids and work. I'll still be pleasant, cute, "done" when he's back in town from working, and "busy" when he calls or checks in.

This morning he called, EARLY, which he NEVER does, as he'd been up all night driving to make up for coming home the past two nights. He was just checking in to see what we were doing. And, to tell me how proud he was of S11's "play" in the game last night. He also said, since it's S11's b-day on Friday, he was working to get all of his out of town stuff done, so he could be home Friday afternoon, and we could take him out that evening.

Funny, too... in the past, especially if overtired, he gets a little testy over dumb things. And, he feels the need to tell me about it (if it's something involving one of the kids, the dog, etc...). Typically, this stuff would NEVER bother him, as he's pretty laid back, but if he's tired, he tends to get testy. Well, I've never liked him feeling the need to spew the venom of the situation to me, especially since if it's not something I can help. (If he just confided in his unhappiness with something, fine, but the testy words are a huge turnoff.) So, last night he sent me a txt, just prior to coming to the game (we drove separate since he was leaving afterwards), saying, "I'm going to kill that dog!" NORMALLY, I would reply, "Why, what did he do now?" or try to validate his unhappy response to a situation. I completely ignored it. Later on, he asked me if I got his txt. I said I did. And, just continued on with my conversation with another mom. He asks me later if I want to know what the dog did. I said, "Well, not really. You can handle disciplining the dog, the kids, etc... just fine. You're a great Man/Dad. I don't txt you with nastiness every time an issue arises during the day with the kids, the dog, the handyman, etc..., and I'm sure you're appreciative. You used to make me nervous with stuff like that, but I've I've come to know you do a great job overall, so I'm fine without knowing the details." Looked at me like I was from Mars. Then, asked if I wanted to stop for ice cream after the game. LOL

1300 calories yesterday
30 min walk w/ankle weights early this am w/early walker friend
3-mile walk w/BFF just now

Love it!