Thank you so much for your support, I *really* appreciate it. This is such a difficult time and I have taken on board all your advice.
I have been taking lots of action this morning. I have started the process of transfering all the household bill direct debits to my personal account and have also started the process of taking my name off the joint account. I have made the decision not to close it, just remove myself, my money and my responsibilities from it then it is his to do as he likes with. It is just there will be no money in it.
I have extracated him from all access to my accounts/ credit cards etc. I know I should have done this 18 months ago but I trusted him so. I have learnt my lesson, there is no trust left now. I sound bitter but I am not, I do not hate him I am just really dissappointed that he would do this. The man I married would never take the actions that he has, he is clearly no longer that person. I will just act with dignity and excuse myself from his life. This is what he wants, he gets no benefits from me.
I will look into mediation thank you Saffie and naej for the suggestion. I hadn't thought of it, well we haven't needed it till now. I am going to be so careful from now on to protect myself. I have a meeting with a solicitor very soon.
Before mediation, I will give him one last chance to meet with me. I am very clear on what I will say to him. I am not angry, I am calm and collected.
I am going to reassess the divorce situation soon, I'm not clear whether I will wait at this stage yet or not, I just know that right now it is not the right time for me. Whichever way it happens I will give myself 6 months to get it cleared before I embark on my travels a free woman.
Sigh, how did it come to this. WTH happened to him? Alien abduction methinks!!
