The D will take care of itself one way or the other. My primary focus is on D(1) at the moment. While W is involved in the A, and is acting belligerent and attempting to trash me to anyone who will listen - I'm keeping my eye on the ball and making sure I walk away with what I want as far as my D(1). I could care less about $, or anything else regarding the D. Since I have evidence on her A, there isn't really anything they can do except hope the judge believes her on the Abuse allegations, which seems less and less likely considering that they have no real evidence, just a documented liar to put on the stand.

So how do I feel about my M? I do care about my W, I think she is in a bad place mentally, I hope she straightens out her life and is happy, and I'm willing to listen if she wants to come back. I just don't see it as very likely at the moment considering she is not focused on anything outside of OM which makes it very easy to fight her on the D. The bad news - since she is so controlling/manipulative/etc. she has family bankrolling her to fight me because they all believe what she has told them.

I figure the truth will come out on wash day... not sure what a big exposure would do other than create hurt feelings on all sides. Her family would probably blame me for the A anyway. I'm not through collecting/building evidence. W has been very helpful in documenting lots of things for me.

I think the biggest thing she resents is the loss of control over me - and the only real control she has left is D(1) and she is doing things to manipulate me there. That won't last, and when it is over she'll realize I've severed outside of that connection.

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."