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[markhaving probs]

Hi J,

Thanks for responding, I hope you are well. Thanks for the insight, it does make me think more. The 180's I've implemented are the usual really, helping more around the house, spending more time with the children, also as our house project is not finished, she expects ne NOT to finish it because as she has said before "well, you don't care about the house anymore, so why should you do anything"? This is AFTER me continuing to do carpentry, painting etc without me asking for any praise or thanks. She will not encourage me or anything, so I'm wondering whether her comment is to goad me into doing the work, or the fact I am doing it which is making her angry. Most of my friends say I'm mad to do the work and you are only pandering to her wishes as she has got me wrapped around her little finger. I say I'm doing t for the children, though if I'm honest I am doing it for her as this would be a 180 for me as I have never really done any DIY in the past, I am confused about this.

I responded to the heating by saying 'I will look at it when I get home. X' I responded pretty quickly, though I am wondering about the timing of the response and the text itself.

I hope you are right about the 'single' life advice. Going dark for me might be construed as 'doing some of the same' as she cites neglect to her needs on the divorce petition which she told me on Monday will arrive this week. I said "OK, good", though I was reallycut up inside. I would have approximately 3 months to try and change thing in which time she will be having 2 summer holidays with the children at my parents-in-laws villa in Greece. She will not really have much time to think about things because she will be with her family and my children at the family villa in Corfu, while I will be at home.

I really do sound like a victim here and pretty weak, though not in front of her, but I am having trouble trying to stay in the present.