I'd strongly suggest some mutual transparency and some individual boundary-setting be communicated between the two of you. You know what they say about "the definition of stupidity" -- "doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result."
What would be the two or three boundaries of personal integrity YOU would want to lay out moving forward? What would be hers?
I think the "NMMNG" book is excellent. I'd also suggest the two of you go thru the book "His Needs, Her Needs" by Harley, and perhaps do the exercises together.
