My biggest mistake was taking her back too easy. I should had put my foot down and told her to work out her issues first before trying to come back. Just taking her back with open arms let her continue to be confused and took away her motivation to work on herself since I was doing all the work.
In hindsight, I should have filed the day I found out about the A. Things would have been different. Oddly enough a couple of success stories I read had the LBS do just that. It earned them some respect and was a wake-up call to the WAS and caused them to come right back. Knowing what I do now over this past year, I would actually advise that. Once the WAS thinks you don't need them it really makes them think about what they are doing. Showing you are strong is a big attraction but so hard to pull off.
I agree, but it's not in the DB catechism. We're advised to be their best friend -- even help them move their stuff in with OM/OW.
