Just found out wife filed

[RobD70]

I know my marriage is over but I want to keep sharing my story anyway so people can avoid making the mistakes I made at least.

Went to the IC which is the same one the W and her youngest son uses. Both had told the IC that they can tell I'm angry and the W is hurt about the way I respond to her (just to the point, no small talk, wont answer calls). Really what does she expect?

I told the C that her moving in with the OM for the second time was a deal breaker and that I want the D over with asap. I want nothing to do with the W and pretty much hate her guts. I said I just married the wrong person and she has unrealistic expectations of relationships. I used to think the W was special but now I know she's not and she can't be trusted. I knocked her right off that pedestal lol. I wish I had done it sooner.

My biggest mistake was taking her back too easy. I should had put my foot down and told her to work out her issues first before trying to come back. Just taking her back with open arms let her continue to be confused and took away her motivation to work on herself since I was doing all the work.

In hindsight, I should have filed the day I found out about the A. Things would have been different. Oddly enough a couple of success stories I read had the LBS do just that. It earned them some respect and was a wake-up call to the WAS and caused them to come right back. Knowing what I do now over this past year, I would actually advise that. Once the WAS thinks you don't need them it really makes them think about what they are doing. Showing you are strong is a big attraction but so hard to pull off.

I'm going to hang on to my anger for now. It really helps me deal with her. The C thinks I should be working on letting it go but right now I see no point. I think I like hating my wife lol. She is a dumper and she still has ex's try to talk to her after all these years. I might just be the only ex to not want her. I feel special