Well he came round last night, aid it's over. Said now we need to discuss where to go from here. He wants to but me out, he has it all planned.
Now THIS is the hill upon which you make your stand.
Yes, get a good family law solicitor -- preferably one who specializes in "women's rights" issues. There is NOTHING that says you need to go along with the plan and the marital endgame that the TWO of them have planned for YOUR marriage.
In fact, it's time they began to get a good dose of REALITY injected into their fogged out, irresponsible lives.
Please keep us posted on the legal front. While it's not MY specialty, there are a whole lot of good smart folks here who can help you.