But there is a ways to go before you should let her move back in with ya'll. Obviously, the way things were working, wasn't working. Ya'll will have to agree to make those changes, then live separately having made those changes, and then discuss becoming a family again and how it is going to be before I think you can let her move back in. Otherwise, you have the same old marriage, and the same old marriage didn't work before...it would be crazy to do the same thing again. These are things, that when she decides she wants to work on the marriage, you need to talk about. That things can't go back the way they were. Period. You can't get mad and kick her out of the car anymore, no matter what she says, as much as you may want. There's just a certain level of trust there that the person you married, no matter how mad they are at you, still loves you and is not gonna leave you on the side of the road. I know you are not that person anymore. She does not. It was an isolated incident, yes. I can't go back to the nights upon nights of drinking and I shouldn't have to. She should be able to trust that you love her and won't leave her no matter how pissed off you are or she is. I think maybe she felt a little bit abandoned? not sure about that. maybe just always questioning if you always loved her or not. as we all do.
Broken Open, the book, I'll say it again. We all have to be on this journey. We are going to be better people for this experience. "Take the evil in you and rechristen it into what is best in you" I made a poor choice. But I am a better person now for having made a mistake. I hate the mistake. But I don't hate who I am now. I live more...truthfully. I say thank you now. I take the time and I am truly THANKFUL for every bit of kindness people show me.
Have a good day. I'm happy for you!
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
There's just a certain level of trust there that the person you married, no matter how mad they are at you, still loves you and is not gonna leave you on the side of the road. I know you are not that person anymore. She does not. It was an isolated incident, yes. I can't go back to the nights upon nights of drinking and I shouldn't have to. She should be able to trust that you love her and won't leave her no matter how pissed off you are or she is. I think maybe she felt a little bit abandoned? not sure about that. maybe just always questioning if you always loved her or not. as we all do. 
