It can impact receipt of alimony only if it can be proved that the adultery was THE major cause of the marriage breakdown, a tough burden of proof. I think it may just be my attorney's way of smacking her on the nose with a rolled up newspaper. He has HAD it with her. The mediator told his paralegal that she is CRAZY!!
I'm not sure I have the stomach for this, but she is like Freddy Kruger....she won't die!!!!!! The hand keeps coming out of the lake! She is a CLASSIC bully, and the only way to take on a bully is to punch them right in the "snot locker".
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I never planned to get as close to her as I am, it just happened. I pretty much thought I would NEVER want to be involved with anyone for a LONG time, but it just evolved. She went through a bad time herself a long time ago, and has dated some (in her words) "creepers" over the years, including a guy who lived with his mother!
It may be my "normality" (or what passes for normality!) that attracted her. She has made no secret how she feels about us being together. She has told me she thought she would never find anyone that she was crazy about.
She even said she thought when she was married that she married the wrong guy. She has been a Godsend in helping me with my crazy STBX. I treat her with a great deal of respect and take good care of her. I won't drop the ball on "Not filling love tanks" ever again. I did try and learn from my failed marriage. It's never 100% anyone's fault (usually)
Also, although your wife and my STBX are very similar, she can talk with you at times, and you can be together. MY STBX is miserable all the time.
You may have not yet fully detached either. You still do a lot of things with her and your kids, so it is tough to totally disengage.
I can't wait to unload her! There IS no more emotion for her. It's ALL business now. Her involvement with her boss more than solidified my pity for and disgust toward her. It took me a LOONNNGGGGG time to get here....about 4 years, since she asked for a divorce on July 31st, 2005. If you could read my posts from 05-06, you would see I was a totally broken man at the hands of a very abusive wife.
I must have been crazy to let her do that to me, and have my kids see a shell of a man who they had come to admire. When I almost checked out, I severely rocked their world. Unless you've been in that abyss, however, you can never judge.
