Jayce's thread

[Jayce]

Hi to anyone still reading this. I hope you are all well.

It is warming up here and that means scraping all the winter hair off the horses and we can trail ride again. I'm having fun, but really exhausted today. Good excuse to sit still awhile.

H & I have had a couple more up & down weekends, but, at last, a breakthrough of sorts. I've been asking when H first felt he'd lost his libido & if he had any idea why for about 15 months. A couple days ago he said when he realized he was having some ED problems that knocked out the libido. He also said it took him a long time to realize that. And he realized it "awhile back". As for why he didn't tell me then, whenever it was, instead of allowing the hurt to continue he had no answer. Aaahhhhhhhhh.

Passionate Marriage was followedin 2000 by Resurrecting Sex, same author. He has some interesting things to say about arousal, desire and anxiety. Anxiety being a performance killer in that it decreases arousal during ML and kills the good stuff like enjoyment and performance. Haven't got to the part where he tells us how to decrease the anxiety, assuming there is a way we can do that. I'm on it. It'll be faster if you guys read it yourselves, cuz we're on vacation in a week and I don't know when I'll get back to the books. I'll have to return it to the library & take it out again when we get back. Not a problem. I think I need a vacation from all the books, too.

Hang tough, everybody,
Jayce