So a very WEIRD MC #3 today. MC keeps pointing out to W how young our kids are. This is irritating W. Frankly it's irritating me. Not because it's not true, but because it calls into question (even for me) MC's impartiality. As if she's trying to "guilt" W into re-evaluating her D decision. Which is counter-productive for my DB'ing. So I think we're going to shop for a new MC.
During the session MC called her bluff a bit -- "you know, you don't need Dr Hemlock's permission for this. You could simply serve him the papers."
Well, W had a good rationalization for why fools rush in, well, you know, hummana-hummana, etc. etc., but it was a point for Team H. But again, I was troubled by MC's advocacy. That seems more likely to me to push W away. And it throws a wrench into my DB'ing, which is all about getting her to stop running.
On the separation, W is looking for a new place. She's done a good job of rationalizing it, and what can I say? Not going to change her mind, so off we go. She did point out that she's indifferent as to WHO leaves -- I could leave, but then we'd need a nanny for the kids since W works so many hours. Logistically it doesn't make sense. And I can see that.
W says she needs the space and she doesn't want me to get the wrong impression when we get along -- which is most of the time -- and that's consistent with what my DB Coach says. So I'm pretty solid on that. And I tell her I understand, validate, validate, etc.
W says she wants to 'date' -- DB Coach prefers a less romantic term -- in order to rebuild some kind of friendship. W has said some nice things to Dr H, and so DB Coach has advised me to thank her for them, tell her I'm happy she said that, and move on. Which I do.
Now the "dating" thing is a bit of a problem for me, but on the other hand DB Coach says that I want to take every opportunity to replace a (-) association from the past with a (+) association from the present, so it's a dicey decision, but fortunately one I don't have to make just now.
With respect to @pollyanna, W is going to be involved in the day-to-day life of the family, so a "clean break" will be more difficult to manage.
