WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 5

[MrBond]

Way too accommodating. Let her feel it. I wouldn't even acknowledge her really. Just say yes or no and that's it. She doesn't want to talk to you, then don't. She's pushing your buttons again to feel something...anything. Don't encourage it.

Remember, it goes back to telling her that you are not the one who makes her happy or unhappy. It's all in her head.

Also, DO NOT move out of the home. Have her do it. It's a psychological thing. She wants out of everything the two of you had built together. So let her feel on her own even if it is temporary.

If she's already moping around and saying that she doesn't want you around, then all you're doing is accommodating her. Don't do her any favors by making her comfortable.

If you can swing it, have the kids stay in the house with you if you're worried about stability. You can do it. I learned how to raise my kids alone and I became a much stronger father. Strong enough that when I told my W that she was free to leave, I also told her that we (me and the kids) didn't need her anymore and that I had learned to be a single parent. That kind of through her for a loop. You'll have to sacrifice alot, but in the end it would get you much closer to your kids than you ever thought possible. And right now they need the 'right' parent to stay with them. The one that you want them to model themselves after in the future. The one that fights for their M and not the one that can't 'get over' her anger.

Stop saying that you 'feel bad for her'. She feels bad, so what? Does that affect you? Not in the least. What I said about tipping points, you can see how she get enough strength to get through each stage on her own all the way out the door. Cut her off by making the decisions. She can't argue with you because after all, it is what she wants isn't it?