What I mean is, if we file jointly, does it mean anything?
Our sitch is that we bought this house together, but I have been paying everything on my own. He told me it's basically my house b/c most of the money for the down payment was originally mine. (He's broke like no joke).
He's been paying for his illicit affair enabling apartment. He's also been racking up thousands and thousands of dollars of debt as he has been taking out school loans. (I would say $20,000 since he moved out, probably more.)
Friends have been worried that I will be responsible for his school loans. I attempted to look on the internet for IA's laws, but this stuff is like Greek to me.
Anyway, I'm worried that filing together is a statement that our finances are still together - they aren't.
And part of me wants to tell him to shove the taxes up his A$$, as he asked if we could file jointly and if I could do them. (Once again, proving I need to be his mother figure.)
I don't know. I know some will say to contact a lawyer, but I really don't want to do that.
We had talked, way back when, and it may be possible for us to settle this without lawyers. At my Divorce Care class, they really emphasize how ugly it can be with lawyers. They say if possible, you should try to agree without lawyers.
As much of a cheater my H is, he has told me that there's no way he will ask me to be responsible for any of his school loans.
Any advice would be great......
M:36 H:36 M 3 Y T 8 Y No kids Bomb 6/30/08 PA I filed 9/29/09 D final 1/22/2010
