But you know what, I still feel like I can't compete with OW because of H's need to be needed. And he has said that numerous times to me, "you don't need me." I told him that I may not need him but I loved him, but he so want to be needed that's all he focuses on.
Right, I think a lot of the OP are just different than us. Not necessarily better, usually not, but just a change. And with really young OP like that, I think the chance of that R lasting is not good. And I'm thinking something that might appeal to your H like a needy OW may not be as attractive to him when the fantasy wears off a bit.
I don't think we necessarily need to or should compete with the OP. I have worked on some problems I had, my lack of self confidence and my neediness, and have worked to make myself the best me I can. And in my case, I have the opposite, I was very dependent and OW is very independent and career-oriented, and I do feel like if my H wants someone like that and I'm more focused on family. I mean I think if they ultimately decide OP is best for them, then we need to find someone that will appreciate us for who we are. Karen
