Stuck808 and 25,

I agree. The kids are the most important in this. I have no intention of stopping them from going to counseling. If it helps them cope, then I am all for it being as how none of us have a choice in this matter. Its best to make sure their world is as stable as possible considering their mom's choices.

I do wish I was there for my kids. I'm heading back at the end of May. I will be done with my learning by then. I drew up a schedule for myself and sent it to my W so that she is aware of my plans.

I also told her today that my dad and sister and brother in law still love her. She said she loves them to but can't talk to them right now. She told me there is a 50/50 chance she will want to move to Florida in 1 to 3 years. I said we would have to move together. She said of course. I said we would both have to have something lined up.

W then said that she would like for her and the girls to visit my dad and my sister and her husband once they move to Florida. She specifically left me out of those visits. I'm not sure what she is thinking. She thinks she is going to be welcomed without me there? My sister and brother in law will probably allow it for the purpose of getting a shot at fixing our family. But my dad on the other hand said don't bother coming if its not with me. He actually has no interest in her while she is acting this way.

I do think if she gets back to my family though, memories may start coming back and that old family feeling might have some impact. It might. Of course we are talking a couple of years from now.

It does continue to tell me though that she doesn't plan on this affair lasting, but that she really does not want to be back with me even when its over.

She is a sweetie. I love her none the less. Its kind of the thing, hate the sin not the sinner. Well, thats how I feel. I hate what she is doing, but I love her.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...