there are no words to describe the self-centeredness of the addict...and IMO, some of them are that self-centered before they take a drink. Keep hanging in there. You are doing great, and I think it's outstanding that you are not giving in to his desire for "support" as he deals with alcoholism, as you say, you've been there, done that, and until he faces up to his own responsibilities and stops blaming, there's nothing anyone can do to help him anyway.
