If the c is half decent, no one can "brain wash" her. Good grief, that's just one of those things to say that doesn't end up helping. You can't stop them from going to c, nor should you, so are you going to fly back for an appointment? Are you going to ignore it and refuse to be on the speaker phone? Remember this is about the KIDS...oh yeah...not about who is right or wrong in the M...
Your w said you were weak...two thoughts come to mind. First, OUCH!! that would hurt to hear and of course you are trying to show her that her data is flawed or out of date with the "new Kev"...but chasing her around and chasing new directions every day and therefore spinning your wheels and staying in one, wrong place, is NOT going to appear strong to her....so keep on doing what is strong Kev, and changing your mind all the time shows a lot of weakness, it's true. Stay on ONE Course, sure checking options is fine, but stay on track while you do that...make sense?
2nd thought---Speaking of weakness, was it "strong or weak" of her to give in to her temptations and cheat? Oh, that kind of strong....yeah, she's one to talk. ("I'm weak to want the M to work, or you're strong b/c you cheated and want out? Excuse me, what is the definition of 'strength' being used here?") Staying power takes strength. But you, Kev, have to show it by practicing it. STAY THE COURSE....or you'll have no room to talk either.
One has to wonder how she thinks you should have "coped better" with the whole divorce goal. You might want to ask her sometime, CALMLY, what she expected or thought was an appropriate response for a man to have, when facing such deep wounds? Say you are hurt, more than focussing on her being wrong, for purposes of this question though. You want her to think about it sometime...good grief, what is a guy supposed to do?
Keep on keepin' on...and make it ALL about the kids now... (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
