what is her problem? When we are in the same room together she does not say a word to me. And I don't care. I got a life and it does not involve her in any way. Last time we talked she said she does not like me does not want to work on a friendship ect.... Does not hurt anymore. So I am good there.
The thing I don't get is 5 text messages in 2 days and 4 were yesterday. 1st 1 telling me our tax appointment was ok Sunday. Next asking to get milk on the way home from work. Next was changing our taxes to Monday. Next was asking if I got milk and if I wanted her to pick up food for me.
And today she asked if she picked up oil for her car if I would change it for her. The thing with that last question for me is she used to kid about why she married me. She used to say she married me cause I was a mechanic. Ya ha ha. So if she married me for that, what makes her think I am touching her car now that we are not married.
Hey Ed, it's been a while, been super busy, you know, life gets like that.
Been catching up on your thread and it's what i mentioned to your before earlier in this thread or another.
You have stopped pursuing. You have stopped talking, stopped asking questions, stopped initiating contact, etc. You created a vacuum between the two of you and now she is the one initiating contact, even in a limited form. Asking for you to buy milk, asking for you to change her oil, etc.
I would still stay dark and limit your contact. Continue getting a life, get out of the house more, just don't be around as much, limit your conversation, only respond to her if she asks a question, limit your responses to a few words and also appear to be happy and doing well.
You sound like you're doing a lot of this and congrats, you're getting it. Act happy until you are happy and trust me, it will happen.
You see you aren't her stepping stone to emotional healing. If you had stayed sad, depressed hurt, etc. It would helped her more, it would have solidified the decision in her head to leave you because you aren't an attractive man in her eyes. But you getting a life, acting happy, doing stuff, moving on in general, etc. throws all of those ideas to the side because she can see that you aren't depressed and you are actually fine. It confuses her and makes her question herself and her decisions. It also allows you to discover the great individual you are, the one that got lost in this relationship.
As for the feelings, trust me bro, they will always be there, coming & going, some days strong, some days very distant. You can't fault feelings, you feel because you have a heart, it's not a bad thing. Don't ever believe that either.
Keep doing what you're doing and give us an update when you get a chance.
