Thanks, DQ. Very true because even H has said that he is lost and I know it. And yes, he doesn't do anything to find himself. And possibly that he is addictive to the drama b/c although he is with OW I know he hasn't committed himself 100% and a part of me feels like he is affeared to commit himself truly to anyone. So, I do try to get over him, but it is so hard. I tell you if there was a pill to take to cure my love for him, I think I would take it. \:\) Thanks again for coming over to this forum.