Newgal, we may have a different scenario but the same circumstances. I am 31, H is 35, OW is 23. I am stable in my career as my H is, OW is still young and search. But my H enjoys being her rescuer and that she has to turn to him for everything. She just got a job I hear but H is definitely the breadwinner there. With me, I made more $$. But you know what, I still feel like I can't compete with OW because of H's need to be needed. And he has said that numerous times to me, "you don't need me." I told him that I may not need him but I loved him, but he so want to be needed that's all he focuses on.
