Thanks for joining this forum, I can only speak for myself but any help I can get is appreciated. So I have some questions:
From a WS point of view, do you believe that DB can be effective or is it just a waste of time?
Second, just to share a bit of my sitch, my H has had a long term A with OW. He now has a child with her. We separated in 2005 for about 6 weeks, got back together, then I left in 2006, and now he has left which he says I put him out. OW got married which we believe was because H was married. By the way, H was actually seeing OW before we got married. Now her H has left, and my H and her are living together. Although he has not fessed up to that. I could tell that H is still on the fence and I don't think he has really committed to being with OW. He doesn't want to get a divorce but he doesn't want to do what it takes to make the M work either. He uses his son and says that he has to do and be in contact with OW for his son. I do know him and OW had to mantain contact but it was a daily thing several times a day etc. Anyway, now that H is gone I can't help but feel hopeless at times like I am wasting my time. H and I have been together 14-15 years. What do you think?
