Thanks Puppy. I see your posts where you are gently trying to say these things, and I applaud your courage as well.

Its so hard and painful, and I totally understand wanting to be in denial.

But I figured I would open my own thread for those who really want to ask a former cheater straight up, any question they want. This way, I won't impose on other threads of LBS's who want to stay in denial. Instead, anyone who really wants an opinion can come here and I'll (as gently as possible) tell them the truth as I see it...without the denial filter. Only those who want to hear it will really ask me, I'm sure.

If moderators close down my thread, well, ok...its their board and all....just thought I would try.

Thank you, Pup.

DQ