You're doing all you can do.

Men cry. We all have if they haven't, they have and aren't telling you.

Continue doing what you are doing. It's one step at a time. Just...pick one thing to stop doing or one thing to do differently:
-say I am NOT going to talk about my marriage this week with my W
-or, next time W says something to me, I am NOT going to talk...just listen
-or, plan your first outing with your kids...just you and the kids...or a weekend away with them; do everything..pack their bags, pack food for the trip, etc...and feel a sense of independence

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;