What I'm asking is for those who have done a PHYSICAL separation (not a nite or two, obviously) is to think back -- is there a "different" way to DB when you have less contact?
Ok I have being physically separated since mid 2008. The difference he is not involved in the day to day life of the family.
He would not know if i had gay transitional friend. He would not be my friend on face book He would not know which movie D went to with friends.Unless she told him. He would not know absolutly anything about my day unless he asked.
I was a stay at home mom and I shared everything with H , now he finds out for himself.
This is what separated means. Dropping the rope. I am no longer available emotionally to H and nor am i interested in his day to day life. Why would i care what happened at his work. He does not want to be married. Treat her as you would the next door neighbor. The kids will tell her what they want her to know or let her ask questions.
Other than the emotional attachment you are doing well.
