I think I understand and hear what your saying. Frankly, sometimes it is hard to read and doesn't give me lots of optimism. I think my relationship is improving. I'm hopeful. I know it takes time to repair extensive damage to a relationship as happened in mine. I want to be hopefull that our sex life will recover and be more exciting. But the reality is it might not. I miss oral (both ways) huge. Cinco says he can't imagine a marriage without it. Whelp - I'm living one. It may return but this area is one that there's a fair probablilty won't - and it bums me.
A day at a time. Just hope by the time enough trust is built and she's willing to be a bit more free and experimental (if ever) and giving I won't have to take a pill to participate. Frickin depressing.