Whatdidido - ha, that is a laugh, about the looks thing because this new gal he is hanging out with is 23, firm, no wrinkles, good skin, works out like crazy, she is gorgeous. I am no slouch, but I can't compare in that department at almost 39. About her emotional stability, I don't know because I don't know her at all. I have heard comments that she is a little rough around the edges, but I don't think she is that way with my H, I think she is oozing sweetness. I don't even think she realizes the seriousness of what she is doing - hanging out with a married man who has a kid (I wouldn't have touched that with a 20 foot pole when I was 23), she is so young, still lives with mommy and daddy. Sometimes I think H maybe feels more like a big brother figure to her, rather than boyfriend material, but still, the relationship is inappropriate and bothers the hell out of me. If that is what he wants, someone who will look up to him and he can "guide" them, not an equal partner, I can't and won't compete.
And yes, they do try to do everything they can to justify. I think my H will do a good job of convincing himself that I am wrong for him now. And he will believe it. And if he believes it, then it will be truth in his eyes.
