I'll be honest, if I did not have children, and my wife had had an affair, I would be saying "to hell with you!" I'd be sitting in a lawyers office right now trying to figure out just how badly I could hurt her in the divorce.
Me too! But I know it's difficult. I think there are a lot of strong emotions controlling our choices. For one, most of us do really love our spouses and, number two, it's really hard on the ego to be "left." I think there's some strong emotions that we want to redeem the situation to prove our own personal worthiness (ego). It's much easier to leave, then be left. That's why some marriages split up after reconcilation and the LBS becomes the WAS.
I think that's a really interesting point. I think you're right.
