I'm glad you moved in and are getting settled. It makes a HUGE difference once you get your new place to feel like it is your own place, things do feel so much better. I'm personally very comfortable in my apartment and I've been able to get stuff to XW as I've come across them in my unpacking. It is nice to have my own place and a separate place for my D.
I'm sorry about the difficulty of the decision on your S11. You made the decision that was best for him and he'll love and respect you for this unselfish act, regardless of how difficult it was for you to do.
It is too bad your W is controlling and mean as well. I know all too well how that is to live with, but your current policy is the best one...ignore it and move forward. Say what you need to establish your boundaries, but don't engage in a conflict w/her at all. Sift through the garbage she deals you and toss out anything that is unnecessary from her.
Although it is tempting at times to "say your peace" I'm constantly reminded by my friends here on DB that to do so would be counter-productive.
