Silva, I think it probably helps that your kids are older - and can understand what W is doing.
My kids are still in their formative years - and again, I wish the biggest thing they had to worry about was their homework!
I feel what SMW is saying - and it's true. However, again, you can stress and worry and fret about it - or you can be the best frigging parent that God every put on this earth.
My kids know that I won't date, they know that I love their Mom, they know what my morals say about divorce and affairs, etc.
It's going to be very hard to sit them down Friday and explain that I am filing for divorce. That's the only thing I'm not looking forward to.
