Hey ((Julia)) ~ Wow!! I can't believe him!!!! I mean, really, the least he could do is not dig a deeper hole, to pull you into. Totally agree with Ali ~ self centered b**tard!!!! I would definately confront him, although obliviously he doesn't give a sh!t, if this hurts you or not. At this moment I'm sure it would be difficult to contact him & not be totally p!ssed off!! Where's Gweedo when you need him - to knock a few heads!!

Personally, I would check out all options & go online & learn about D in your area. Just to be on the up & up. Do you think he is waiting until the 2 years as well? What's the advantage or disadvantage of telling him you want a D & are waiting for the 2 year wait? For me the relief was not when I decided to D - but when my H finally knew, I was ok with it. No more consciously trying, no more worrying about what I say or do and much less pressure. (Granted, I do monitor myself somewhat & try to use DBing). It's just the game, the match is over - next round please!


Me39, XH45
Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats
Divorced 6/4/09
Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)