The way I always tried to present anything to my husband was how it would benefit him (Since MLCers are selfish I tried to use that to my advantage). Even if it was something to protect me, I'd always try to look at how it might help him and then present it at that angle.
For example, I'd present it as wanting to set this up so you can both make sure she is financially covered (even though it's your own finances we are actually concerned with), and how putting this in place will help keep everything running smoothly for everyone. In other words, present it as a positive thing that will be benficial and helpful to everyone involved.
Also, if you are going to file yourself, or use one attorney, make sure it's YOUR attorney....
That's interesting about the incident with your son's migranes, and her becoming upset... and how you weren't as upset by her response as you would have been in the past. I'm glad you did this 180 and expressed your feelings even if it did upset her. And it sounds like you did it so calmly! Gosh, my H would have amped up on the anger and called me a few choice names!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
