Mark, in some respects my WAW sounds like yours. 1) She's lost a lot of weight; 2) started a new workout routine 3 mos or so before Bomb; 3) new clothes; 4) going out more; 5) had a dinner w/ old male friend roughly 21 days before (she reports) deciding on Bomb; 6) got herself a Blackberry; 7) asked her IT friend to set up her new laptop (instead of her IT husband). All suspicious.
So I'll play devil's advocate: 1) much stress since D-bomb didn't go off as planned -- the airstrike was unsuccessful; 2) she'd been talking about new workout plan for 1 year; 3) as saffle noted, new weight = new clothes for women (we just tighten up the belt, add a hole or two); 4) detaching, GALing; 5) this one IS suspicious; 6) her firm pays for the BB and she is out of the office a lot and most colleagues her rank have them already; 7) didn't want to "bother" me because I switched from PC to Mac.
As puppy said, knowing is a risk. Looking to know is a risk.
For one, you only ever get part of the signal stream.
Think about our Glorious Invasion of Iraq, in which Dr Hemlock played a part. Colin Powell went to the UN with this: "Ahmed, I have the bi...[static] [static] [crosstalk]...ological... [static] [static] [noise] [undecipherable]...weapons!" And off Mr. Bush and Mr. Blair go, yee-hawing into the sunset.
Of course, long after Dr Hemlock came home from the war, we learned the conversation was: "Ahmed, I have the bicarbonate of soda! Once your stomach feels better we can go to the zoological gardens. The lion tamer has cool weapons!"
So while you might find this or that note or indicator, you have to guard against the fact that you're reading them through a particular lens. You oh-so-don't want to "find out" that you most definitely DO want to find out and as a result read everything in a way that leads to that conclusion -- self-fulfilling prophecy.
And, again as puppy said, is it a deal-breaker? Speaking for myself the answer right now is "I'm not sure."
Just keep DB'ing. Make it about you. It's all guys like us can do. Cheers.
