I have been reading along. I understand that you want a reconciliation and your spouse does not. And that in a nutshell, is why no one is giving you reconciliation advice. It takes two to reconcile. As long as one is dead set on divorce, that is the spouse driving. All you can do is make her question her choice. So we are trying to make you look more attractive. And if you don't look needy maybe you will be the the better choice. I don't remember though, does she have another man in the wings?
Around here, jumping onto match sites and friending old flames is not favored, so you are likely to get flack for that. I personally, think that jealousy is a good motivator, but I know others will disagree.
Anyway, you didn't get here overnight, and it won't change overnight. Keep up with the MC. Sounds like that is your best hope. If at some point she is willing to "try to make the marriage work", even if it is just for the sake of the children, I suggest that you get to a Retrouvaille weekend as quickly as possible. See the website for dates and locations, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. And don't let the affiliation with the Catholic church bother you. It is open to all. We are Jewish and it was the best weekend of our lives. Turned our marriage around completely.
