I didn't have to work today, and it was nice and sunny, so I went golfing. I was pretty bad! I hit a couple good shots, so I will have to try again, though!
In other news, S21 survived his birthday today. Some of his Marine friends took him out last night, planning to take him barhopping after midnight. But by the time midnight rolled around, none of them could drive, so they just stayed wherever they were. The they all had to go drill at 0700 this morning! Yesterday his Sargent told him that as long as he could stand on his own this morning he was ok!
Anyway, I guess that means we've succeeded on the first one! Three to go!
My L mentioned that it costs between $700-$1000 to do a QDRO. It appears that I might have to do one for a portion of my 401K. At the time of D, I had enough SEP IRA values to satisfy the retirement settlement, however, it has taken a while to get those transferred and now they have dropped quite a bit such that they wont satisfy the judgment. I wish I could have just had it written in the settlement that she gets all the SEP's. Oh well, it is only money and I am still a young lad like you Jeff - we will make more money.
The thought of spending $3000 to say, "split these in half" is disturbing! I know in the long run it is no big deal, but....
I've found a couple of on-line sources, for about $300 each, one claims to have the info on a zillion plans (and in fact does list the ones I need). I am sorely tempted!
I wish I knew what I was doing! The concept is simple enough, the trick is making all the lawyers happy! And trying to avoid paying them to do it!
At home..... things are pretty good, really. The eggshells are largely gone. The tension is less. I think that W feels less pressure, since she knew that the way we were living was "weird", but now it is ok. (That was assuming. I don't know that!) I would say that we are friends. I think we can get along ok, we just can't live together. Or so it seems.
How are you? Do you think it is just that the elephant has been taken out of the room, so to speak, which means you are getting on better or are you treating each other differently at all?
(((((((Julia))))))) I think that it is mostly that the elephant has been taken out of the room. I have tried to make it clear that I want to be fair, but that isn't really new for me. I think that she is less likely to try to control me now, in a way she's lost her leverage on that.
(((((mishka))))) I only have to survive 'til about 4:30, then I can leave to go to Outback to celebrate S21's birthday. It was Sunday, but he was playing Marine then, and had to work last night.
