Kel, What you said about them "doing this" to us, etc. is so on the mark. I still can't believe all of the stuff my H is doing to me and my kids. However, I keep trying to change it in my mind to tell myself that he is doing these things because there is something wrong with him. It has nothing to do with us. The things he does are just because he is messed up and he's doing it to himself. In the end, who loses? They do.
You don't so confused to me at all. Maybe it's time you changed your username.
