Sorry I wasn't being very clear. I was ranting and shocked!
He used money from our joint account and then put it back in again with a loan taken out from the same bank that we bank with. The payments for the loan are coming out of our bank account to which he has paid nothing into since last November. This is a deliberate choice and act to deceive me. And a stupid one at that... does he think I wouldn't realise and even if I email him, if he doesn't respond it'll just go away???
The �350 was from a few months ago when he asked me for that amount to cover his council tax for his new flat that he lives in with gf. Two separate issues.
I am like you naej, if I can't afford it I go without but that was never the case with h. He always got what he wanted because he had well off parents. Our joint credit card debt is only a little bit from the wedding and we lived off it for a while when he was ill and couldn't work - I was doing two jobs at the time and looking after him to try and cover everything.
Speak of the devil - I just got a text full of excuses as to why he hasn't answered (he's been breath testing his staff at work - all terribly important) and he'd like to keep the mortgage holiday as 'things are quite tight'. Obviously I won't answer that one for now!
