Kids are resiliant but they still are damaged by divorce even under the best of circumstances.
You are doing good. Your child is trying to tell you something but not betray your W. That is sad. Just don't push and things will come out when they are supposed to.
I had an interesting day yesterday and trying not to read much into it. They are just words and we need to pay attention to the actions.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!