I have read your thread and I realise that things are moving at some pace for you. However, I think you are a bit hopeful that the changes you have put in place from Dec 08 are going to have already made changes in your W's thought process. It took a while for your M to get into this state and so it will take a while to sort....if you can sort it at all.
Yeah, that 'unreasonable behaviour' categorisation is a pain I feel for you on that one. It covers such a multitude of sins.
Just out of interest, why did your W lose all that weight?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength