WAW

[Can it work]

Honestly Mark I think that these concerns of hers haven't really been going on for 2 to 3 years. She's using them as examples now to try and justify what she's doing. At the time it didn't seemed they bothered her did it? If you've been playing golf since you were young and she never asked you to cut down you have no reason to know that she was bothered by it. If you feel now that you missed out on your kids, that's something for you. It doesn't justify what she's saying now. As you said, when you worked weekends it paid for skiing trips to Switzerland every year. I'm sure she enjoyed that plenty?

You mentioned how it looks as though you're going to lose your job soon. Is this something which may have contributed towards her negativity towards you? Is your family's financial security going to be at risk? Sorry if these are very personal questions but money worries are often a huge contributor towards marital stress.

In answer to your question about the DB coach, I think it would indeed help you. Even if there's no hope for your situation, the coaches can still able to help you learn to cope with that reality. For what it's worth though, I don't think your marriage has gone past the point of all hope. I thought that about my marriage break up too but am beginning to see very small changes in my wife which are encouraging. I've been at this for about 6 months now and it's only in the last few days that I'm starting to see even slight improvements. As I'm sure you know, this is a marathon, not a sprint. You have to stay patient. Don't fuel your wife's anger. If she's shaping for an argument, walk away. Rise above it. Above all, try not to let the hurtful things she says to you affect you too much. I know that's a tall order but it can be done. Just know that she doesn't necessarily mean these things - she's just saying them to get a reaction.

Don't rush in to the divorce because it looks like it's the easier option right now. It won't be easy on anyone. Especially your kids.

Kev