I am sorry JC, to read the last post. Yes please do protect yourself financially from this man. There are so so many of us here in financial difficulties simple because we honestly believed that dispite all our spouses had done they would never cheal or lie over finances. I look back now and think how could I have been so naieve.
With regard to separating the issues, I take the point but I still think it is all linked and alot depends on your attitude to debt and what price you put on it or how it affects you.
I have never ever in my life owed money(apart from a morgage). If I haven't the money I do without. I could not sleep at night knowing I had debts that just keep on mounting. That is just me. To think that my x is adding to that emotional stress whether by omission or plain lies does not matter. It all ties in to the person they have become so in my mind their A and money issues are linked.
For heavens sake even if you can afford it why pay for his lifestyle choices? It isn't going to bring them back just by you being generous more likely they are thinking great she loves me so much that whatever I do she will accept so I'll continue on my merry way. Sorry long post but this stuf makes me really mad.
Ok rant over, but please protect yourself. Take care.
