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[markhaving probs]

Puppy,

I didn't answer your question properly. Interestingly, I have played golf since I was very young, therefore this was not a pursuit I took up after we were married and before the children were born, but I do not remember her moaning it about it as I recall. After the children were born I must admit I did play 'every' Saturday as usual which in hindsight was wrong. I was never around for any of the photographs that were taken of the children when they were young, xmas fetes and what would be deemed as family things. It is so clear now and I feel bitter as I cannot get those times back, this is why I am trying to spend as much time with them as I can - though my wife thinks there is a reason for this to do with the 'Unreasonable Behaviour' divorce petition. She did start to drops hints "are you playing this weekend"? though I don't know now whether this was to test me, but all she told me was it was so that she could put in her diary so that she knew when I was playing. It is only know that she is making a big deal of it, but again I assume it is so that she can vindicate her reasons for breaking up.

She was happy enough for me to work weekends even though I did not, but as it payed double money and allowed us to spend a two week vacation in a 3 star hotel EVERY year in Switzerland skiing with the children I thought I was doing the right thing, I mean who wants to work weekends anyway. My reasons were always so that I could try and give my family the best I could give them without worrying. I cannot remember whether she expressed concerns about not spending more time at home, but I'm sure I would have remembered. I also trained 2 evenings a week without ever consulting her on whether she ever wanted to come, as these were mid-week it would have been impossible to get a sitter. Puppy, I really think I was living the batchelor lifestyle, with everything done at home for me. I guess maybe it was like having a lodger/another child in the house.

I just wish I could turn the clock back as it is all so clear to me know. I just wish she had told me of her concerns 2 to 3 years ago, as that would have been the wake up call I needed.